Sounds of Silence: TN and Tinnitus

Silence is golden – or so it’s said. I wouldn’t know. I always thought silence was a utopian exaggeration. An absence of ambient sounds with plenty of space for background noise to make itself known. A fantasy state dreamed up by children-should-be-seen-and-not-heard types as an excuse to punish children who took the ‘seen’ part of the tenet to be true.

My ears are a constant zone of noise. Sometimes, the volume varies, but the sounds never switch off. Most are gentle and wouldn’t be out of place on a CD of music for meditations (except for those random times when my ears decide to crank the decibels up to rock concert volume). If I could press a button to put the playlist of my ears on shuffle favourites, it would cycle through top hits like:

silencepinAqua Dreams – streams rippling over rounded pebbles pouring over small waterfalls,  accompanied by the haunting sound of panpipes

Marine Dreams – breathy hiss of the ebb and flow of ocean tides accompanied by the haunting sound of panpipes

Forest Dreams – undulating whispers of breezes rustling trees in full leaf accompanied by the haunting sounds of panpipes accompanied by… you guessed it, the haunting sounds of panpipes

But around a decade ago, as I reached my early forties, I started to get the playlists that sound like a soundtrack from a horror movie (or a rerun of the worst of the ’80s synth-pop that made my ears cringe as a teenager):

Kitchen Catastrophe – sharp, jangling tones of metal spoons clattering inside metal saucepans, with a backing band of fingernails scraped across old-fashioned blackboards

SeaStorm – shrill, piercing whistles of wild wind arguing with angry grumbles and rumbles of thunder

It’s only a couple of years ago that I discovered this incessant orchestra is down to a physical malfunction causing tinnitus, and not my wonky definition of silence. I was so used to it, I thought it was normal. Over the years, I’d developed techniques that helped me ignore it as much as possible, but when my trigeminal neuralgia grew worse, so did the tinnitus. One night, after we’d turned off the TV, the dishwasher had finished its cycle and the house should have been quiet, Kitchen Catastrophe started to play on repeat, at maximum volume. I announced, amongst various expletives, with some frustration, ‘I wish silence was really silent.’

silencepin3It turned out silence is actually a thing! Who knew? Well, my husband, for one. And the other 80 to 85% of the population who don’t have tinnitus. And all the people who have had brief episodes of tinnitus. And all the people… oh, lets face it, everyone except me!

It also turned out that I am one of the 15 to 20% of people that do have tinnitus. But how did I not know for so long? After all, I had heard of tinnitus, I just never connected the little knowledge I had of the condition with what I experienced. Anything I had heard talked about tinnitus being a ‘ringing in the ears’ or being loud, intrusive, strident, discordant sounds impossible to ignore.

For many years, I only ever experienced the Dreams soundtrack. There was nothing unpleasant or intrusive about those sounds, they were just there. Sometimes they got louder – for the first time when I was 13 and did an Eskimo roll in a canoe. My ears weren’t too keen on the cascade of muddy Poole Harbour water that flooded them. For months after, my personal playlist was cranked up loud enough to compete with any real music.

But the only concern then was that since my canoe trick, I had extreme earache and I couldn’t hear normal sounds, voices, music etc. Everything sounded distant, muffled, hazy, as if my head was still submerged under water. At the time, the doctor my mother took me to see explained it was temporary and entirely due to lake water getting in my ears. Tinnitus wasn’t talked about. Wearing earplugs if I kept on with canoeing was.

The doctor was right – after a few weeks, the pain and deafness passed, and after a few months the soundtrack reverted to the normal, more subdued version. At least until the next (and every) time I caught a cold, or had a plane trip.

Subsequently, as an adult any conversations I had with doctors about my ears focussed on those periods of pain and deafness. I was twenty-three the first time I flew, and despite sucking on sweets to stop the ear-popping, as I’d been advised, the pain in my ears was excruciating on both ascent and descent, and my hearing stuffed for a fortnight after each flight. This doctor decided it was buildup of earwax, and suggested I get my ears syringed each time I was going to fly.

I don’t know if it helped. I do know that I’ve taken around 40 individual flights in my life. All but the last four or five of them triggered eye-watering, knuckle-clenching bouts of sharp ear pain in-flight, and two of them triggered pain so intense that I was curled up in a ball rocking back and forth in my seat feeling like my head was going to split in half. All of them have caused a period of submerged-under-water deafness, lasting anything between four days and a fortnight. And all of them have caused an extended period of elevated volume tinnitus, lasting from weeks to months.

wing-221526_960_720When my husband first mentioned tinnitus as a possibility, it made perfect sense of the constant sounds. And as I found out more about tinnitus, I realised that all these different issues with my ears were probably connected by one thing – trigeminal neuralgia. The trigeminal nerve is responsible for sensation and movement in the face. When the nerve is damaged, all sorts of weird and whacky things occur in the face and head, on top of the pain. Tinnitus, it turns out, is one of them.

What is Tinnitus?

The sensation of hearing sound when there is none.
These phantom sounds include:

Pitch and volume may vary
It may be in one or both ears
It may be constant or intermittent

What Causes Tinnitus?

silencepin2Often tinnitus is due to another condition. Causes include:

Old-age hearing loss

Over-exposure to loud noises

Earwax build-up

Ear infections or burst eardrums

Some medicines

Excessive alcohol or caffeine

Dental/oral problems such as temporomandibular jaw disorder (TMJD)

Injury e.g whiplash, blow to the ear, head trauma

Neurological disorders such as multiple sclerosis and, yes, trigeminal neuralgia

Conditions that effect the nerves in ear

Chronic health conditions

Treating Tinnitus

The bad news is, tinnitus has no cure.
Most people only experience it as a temporary event. But around 1 to 2% of people experience it as a permanent issue. The jury is still out on medicinal treatments  – drugs won’t stop symptoms, but sometimes do reduce severity of symptoms. Incidentally, the medicines used for tinnitus are the same as used to treat trigeminal neuralgia – anti-convulsants and some anti-depressants like amitriptyline or nortriptyline.

The good news is, tinnitus can be managed.

Tinnitus is phantom noise. Real noise is effective at distracting the brain and drowning out the tinnitus. Here’s some ideas:

Music – at a moderate volume. Too loud might damage your ears which can also cause tinnitus or make it worse

TV/Radio – again, moderate volume


Focus on listening out for environmental sounds, like birdsong or breeze in the trees

Stress is a known exacerbator of tinnitus. Manage your stress levels with these ideas:

breathing exercises


relaxation exercises


I’ve noticed my tinnitus always seems to increase in volume when I go to bed at night. That’s probably due to the lack of other sounds to distract my brain from the phantom noises. When it’s the dream soundscapes, that’s fine – they lull me off to sleep. But if it’s the synth-pop soundtrack, not so good. I find breathing exercises are ideal then – I listen to my breathing and the exercises help me get to sleep. Win-win!

If you think you have tinnitus, do speak to your doctor. It is good to get checked out for any underlying cause. And if you have trigeminal neuralgia and were wondering if it’s also responsible for the funny sounds in your ears – I’m no doctor, but I’d say the answer is a resounding, echoing, ringing yes.


  26 comments for “Sounds of Silence: TN and Tinnitus

  1. 02/07/2020 at 6:25 pm

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    • Trish
      03/07/2020 at 11:11 am

      thank you!


  2. 27/07/2019 at 3:48 am

    Having dealt with vertigo and mild tinnitus in the past, I can’t even imagine how horrific that would be flying! I’ve also had issues with popping and things getting viciously loud in my ears too. Glad you found ways to improve the symptoms.

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    • Trish
      27/07/2019 at 4:09 pm

      It’s so good to find something that helps!


  3. 27/07/2019 at 1:41 am

    I’ve heard of tinnitus, but didn’t realize how many people had the condition–15-20 percent of the population seems like a lot. While I might appreciate the soothing sounds, those jarring ones would drive me batty! If you do have it, visiting the doctor to rule out underlying causes (or deal with them if need me) is great advice.

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    • Trish
      27/07/2019 at 4:12 pm

      It’s a high percentage, for sure. We live in a noisy world and too much noise damages the hearing. I suspect it’s a uniquely C19th and on problem!


  4. 27/07/2019 at 1:05 am

    I had never heard of tinnitus before reading this. I remember listening to CD’s of the rainforest noises before bed as a kid and I wonder if that’d still be soothing as an adult. I should take measures to protect my hearing, I blast the music in my car and go to live concerts so maybe I should be more conscious about my hearing

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    • Trish
      27/07/2019 at 4:13 pm

      I still love rainforest CDs. And yes, play your music softer – better to hear it quietly all your life than not be able to hear it at all later!


  5. 26/07/2019 at 11:01 pm

    I honestly never knew there was a name for this! I’ve had it since I was a kid. Reading the causes, I’m presuming it was an ear wax buildup back them. I can totally relate to the flights and feeling like your head was going to explode. I don’t fly much, but when I was a kid, we went to Alaska a couple of times and I experienced that. Made me hesitant to fly much. Thankfully it has subsided considerably as I’ve gotten older. But I still feel like I am somewhat sensitive to noises. My husband will kiss me on the ear and it makes that “smoochy” sound, and it feels like my ear drum is about to burst. Or a spatula scraping a pan in the kitchen. My husband is again famous for that too. Lol. I’ve been trying to train him to use the rubber ones for years. But since I’ve had it for as long as I can remember, I’ve always thought it was normal and never thought much about it. It just sort of comes and goes.

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    • Trish
      27/07/2019 at 4:14 pm

      That’s the thing – if you’ve always had it, you never think to question it.


  6. 26/07/2019 at 10:44 pm

    Well…my house is never really silence. There is always some sound in the background. We have got wind chimes around the house. So i have never really known real silenece. And now honestly the real silence would really scare me lol 😂

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    • Trish
      27/07/2019 at 4:14 pm



  7. 26/07/2019 at 6:21 pm

    Tinnitus is completely new for me. It was truly a great learning experience. Thanks for the opportunity to learn something new.

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    • Trish
      26/07/2019 at 9:38 pm

      You’re welcome


  8. 26/07/2019 at 3:32 am

    It’s crazy to think that real silence is very hard to find these days. Love the way you described The humming of the fridge being a sound of silence. I never really thought of that!

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    • Trish
      26/07/2019 at 3:49 pm

      thank you


  9. Lyosha Varezhkina
    25/07/2019 at 9:01 pm

    I like concerts and music in general, it helps my soul to grow and generally be better. Music can really be your friend and accompany you virtually anywhere

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    • Trish
      26/07/2019 at 2:35 am

      it can


  10. Lindsay Rae
    25/07/2019 at 9:14 am

    I have never heard of this condition before so this article was so interesting to me. So is Tinnitus like when your ear is ringing but for longer periods of time? Ugh that would be awful! But I’m glad that you’ve figured out a few ways to lessen it. Also, I love your descriptions of your sounds of silence – absolutely beautiful writing. I felt like I could hear your silence myself!

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    • Trish
      25/07/2019 at 10:52 am

      Yes, tinnitus is prolonged ringing (or other sounds) in the ears.


  11. 25/07/2019 at 1:24 am

    Tinnitus is not a condition I was aware of before reading your post. I can’t imagine the frustration and pain involved in a flare-up. I’m glad you have found coping mechanisms that help you through these times.

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    • Trish
      25/07/2019 at 10:53 am

      Tinnitus isn’t painful but yes, can get very frustrating for people


  12. 24/07/2019 at 8:11 pm

    I once said to my husband, “I wish silence really was silent.” That’s when I realised most people do experience real silence. I’m used to it, so it doesn’t really bother me, but I never know if my fridge or heating is making a strange noise or if it’s just my own personal orchestra playing.

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    • Trish
      24/07/2019 at 11:18 pm



  13. Trish
    24/07/2019 at 1:42 pm

    Yes, I find having soft music playing in the background is a good distraction – love the sound of the tapping exercise. I tried it straight away and it worked really well. Might be weird, but if it works, it’s all good!


  14. sjd68
    24/07/2019 at 12:40 pm

    I have been going to concerts since I was very young and I’m pretty certain that loud music on top of some shooting at the gun range I did about a year ago has given me a solid case of Tinnitus. It is very annoying and as you said I notice it more at night when its time to go to bed. I find using my Alexa unit that’s in the bedroom and an app called Ambient Sounds works well. It creates a little bit of noise to distract the ringing and its not too annoying that I can’t sleep. We use a waterfall sound and it is quite relaxing. It might be worth a shot for you! Or maybe try a fan. It’s no fun but oddly I’ve grown used to it. but have also tried putting my thumbs in my ears and tapping the back of my neck with my index fingers. It makes a drum sound and relieves the buzzing for a little while. I know it sounds weird!


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